Year 2019

Happy New Year to all of you! 

I remember a couple of years back I wrote a post about marriage.  People usually relate marriage to companionship, togetherness, tolerance, complementing with each other etc etc. I mean..they're all good. However, one thing that people often overlook in a marriage is..being married to your partner's family as well. 

I struggled with this quite a bit. I always feel like an outsider. I am not used to their upbringing, the way they interact with each other, and I just could not understand the dynamic of this family.  This has brought a lot of arguments between us. 

Bit by bit, I begin to understand this family I married. There are unspoken rules I came to understand. I am aware of some of the rules now, some I completely disagree, some I came to learn, some I wish could change. But the best thing that I could do is to respect them.

It is very important not to make assumptions basde on what you heard or see. Because often times, these would just result in misunderstandings.

I wish in year 2019 I could understand them a little bit better, to understand my husband a little bit better than I did in 2018.